This blog is the 3rd part in a series of blogs about the Simpkins family adoption.
9 days. NINE. That’s it. The journey that started years ago is taking on a whole new story.
We will officially adopt our girls in 9 days!
The circle of our family will finally be complete! We’ve waited for so long for this moment! Of course, as I say that, I know that the girls have waited through what probably feels like way longer. Not knowing where your forever home would be, not knowing if DSS was going to all of a sudden come take you out of your most recent attempt at getting comfortable somewhere, and not knowing if you’d ever see anything familiar again, are just a few of the things going through their little minds. I can’t begin to imagine what they’ve been through. Just survive today. Just keep hoping and waiting for a calm. Just get to the next breath. One day soon, we’ll be on solid ground. They never gave up hope. Not once. Their resilience makes the strength and fortitude of a 6’ 2” man look like tissue paper. I am so proud of them and how far they’ve come. In lifting them up, I have to also lift up their new brothers who love them dearly and have made sacrifices to welcome two new people into our life and family together. They’ve been willing to step aside when they wanted and needed some attention, went back to sharing a room, and always work to make sure the girls feel loved and safe. Our boys are amazing. 9. That’s all that remains.
I wrote a blog a while back called "Welcome to the Whirlwind" that talked about what an amazing process it was to step into, and Pastor Melody wrote Part 2, echoing the process from her perspective. It’s been amazing, challenging, but now, 9. 9 days left, and they will be forever our girls!!
As you can imagine, this process is both beautiful and hard for everyone involved. The girls, our family, their original family, and even their long time foster mom! There have been all kinds of storms along the way: paperwork storms, behavior storms, trauma storms, you name it, it’s happened. Those storms raged and they took their toll. All of us said at some point or another: Just survive today. Just keep hoping and waiting for a calm. Just get to the next breath. One day soon, we’ll be on solid ground. Now, 9. 9 days left, and they will be forever our girls.
As a small side note, I want to uplift Gretchen Goers from Crossnore who has been with us since day one, making life easier, making sure we are informed and comfortable, and keeping us up on all the important dates and paperwork in our process. She’s amazing. We’ve been so blessed by her. Also, Brittany from DSS - an organization that seems to always get a bad rap - is incredible. She brought humanity into what can often feel like a dehumanizing process. She put names in the place of numbers and made us all feel at ease and fully supported.
Truthfully, there has been so much support around us. Our family, friends, foster Mom Nikola and her family, and yep… YOU. All of you have helped us stay the course. We give thanks to God for you.
Remember the story of Jesus in the storm in the boat with the disciples?
35 As evening came, Jesus said to his disciples, “Let’s cross to the other side of the lake.” 36 So they took Jesus in the boat and started out, leaving the crowds behind (although other boats followed). 37 But soon a fierce storm came up. High waves were breaking into the boat, and it began to fill with water.
38 Jesus was sleeping at the back of the boat with his head on a cushion. The disciples woke him up, shouting, “Teacher, don’t you care that we’re going to drown?”
39 When Jesus woke up, he rebuked the wind and said to the waves, “Silence! Be still!” Suddenly the wind stopped, and there was a great calm. (Mark 4:35-39 NLT)
This is the good news. Sisters and brothers, the storms will come. They will. And on occasion they will be fierce. You may find yourself saying: Just survive today. Just keep hoping and waiting for a calm. Just get to the next breath. One day soon, we’ll be on solid ground.
Never give up hope, because Jesus will never leave your boat.
Our girls have been asking to be baptized for a few months now. With them being adopted, we can finally get them baptized. See, they get it! Jesus was with them in the storms. The waters came and rocked their lives. The winds swatted at them and tried to break them. And yet now, as Jesus calms the storm, the waters of baptism are calling to them. They will become part of our family, and then 10 days later will be baptized and will become part of yours too.
So maybe today you’re saying: Just survive today. Just keep hoping and waiting for a calm. Just get to the next breath. One day soon, we’ll be on solid ground.
May you remember that the Lord of the winds and waves NEVER will leave you. Not for a moment. Jesus is calm in the boat because he wants you to feed off him, and he knows the ending. He knows when your 9 days is coming. Jesus will be with you the whole time and these storms WILL END.
Mighty God of all creation. Pour out your Spirit on all of your children waiting. Whether we are waiting on a forever home or just a bit of calm, strengthen us in your confidence and peace, amen.
OVER 12,000 children are waiting for homes here in NORTH CAROLINA!
If you’ve considered adoption, fostering, or fostering-to-adopt and would like more information, please reach out to Gretchen Goers 828.733.4305 with Crossnore. Tell her Pastor Matt sent you. She’s amazing and will help you and your family! (https://www.crossnore.org/)