On Sunday we celebrated our saints. We remembered and honored the memory of our beloved who are now counted among the faithful departed whether it was this year, five years ago, or thirty years ago. It is such a beautiful service filled with emotion and promise. Pastor Scott preached about the faithful nature of God Whose conjunction interruption of “….But…” breaks in our sadness, anger, grief, and loneliness to give us the grace we need.

It is a timely observance in its connection to Reformation, but also as we enter November and turn our attention to the upcoming holiday season. This is a time of the year that can be particularly hard for all sorts of reasons. A variety of emotions and grief can speak particularly loud in the midst of celebrations and expectations that presuppose that we are cheerful and jolly.

Of course, cheerfulness and jolliness are welcomed emotions! I certainly wouldn’t discount that! I love a holly jolly Christmas! However, I also would like to offer a friendly reminder that holidays are hard for those experiencing loss and isolation, and we have the opportunity to care for them during this time. Here are some ways we can care for those who need a little extra support and connection:

First, we can take an inventory. Who are those who have experienced hardship of loss this year? Lost a loved one? Lost their job? Went through a difficult medical treatment? Experienced depression or anxiety? Who haven’t you seen for a while? Chances are if they haven’t been around, something might be up.

Second, we can reach out. Send a card. Make a phone call. Invite them to coffee. Think about inviting them to one of your holiday celebrations.

Third, let them know that they matter and their pain is real. We can’t fix it, but we can acknowledge it. Saying something like, “I know this season might be hard for you,” or “I’m thinking of you” lets someone know they are remembered and seen.

Fourth, we can just listen without trying to cheer them up. It’s normal to want to make someone feel better, but sometimes the best thing we can do is to just “be there”. We can sit with them and listen. Let the silence speak for itself and let love come in.

Finally, we can offer some specific ways to ask how we can help. Instead of saying, “Let me know how I can be helpful to you”, we can ask, “Can I bring you dinner next week?” “Would you like to come over to decorate cookies with me and the kids?” Or even, “I can come by next Tuesday and rake your leaves.”

We are blessed to have such a strong community that cares for each other. As we approach the holiday season, let us continue to live boldly into our calling to be light in the darkness.